Today I ready this article by Lenore Skenazy over at ParentDish.com the basic story is this
The mother was at the library with her 5-year-old, the library where they go every week, in Rochester, New York.... They had only a few minutes before they had to leave to pick up Daughter #2 (age 3), giving the mom just enough time to run upstairs from the children's room to the adult room to check out her book..... [the mother retelling here story] "So I asked my daughter, 'Do you want to come with me or wait here for a few minutes?' 'Wait.' So I told the librarian, 'I'll be right back.' And the librarian said, 'Well ... okay. But I must warn you: the same dangers that are out on the street are here in the library.'"
I read the story and thought, wow people can be really reactionary. I was mostly thinking about the crazy response from the librarian... "the same danger that are out on the street are here in the library" Really? So the same things that happen in the street happen daily in the library?!?
Now first I don't think the street is as dangerous as the nervous hoards would like you to think. I'm not crazy I know stuff goes down.... In big cities like New York there are even shootings on the street, but not daily, not often or else you would never see people on the streets of New York.
But when was the last time there was a shooting in a library?
How about a mugging?
And this is not the dark alley version of a library, this is one that the family visits weekly.
So anyway.... I stopped my thought with the idea of the crazy librarian.....
But then I started reading the comments...... so many of them all crazy parents aggreeing whole heartedly with the librarian. "Never leave a 5 year old alone....not even for 5 seconds" bla bla bla..... "What kind of a bad parent is she.
I couldn't believe my eyes. She was going to run upstairs and check out a book. The reaction was like she was leaving her infant in a den of lions. People chill. Nothing is going to happen.
Maybe I'm wrong...tell me so. I'm not venturing back into the comment forum there, but would love to discuss it with anyone here.
Lenore has posted some thoughts on the response on her blog... Free Range Kids.
It's amazing how readership comments differ.....wow